Below is a list of websites and books that includes information about Medicare (the federal health insurance program for people who are 65 or older), activities and services for older adults, how to talk to about end-of-life care, and connecting with other caregivers. This is not an exhaustive list but rather presents a potpourri of topics relevant to aging, the elderly, and caregiving.
American Association of Retired Persons – www.aarp.org
Alzheimer’s Association – Dallas Help line: 1-800-272-3900 – www.alzdallas.org
Administration on Aging – www.aoa.gov
Family Caregiver Alliance supports and sustains the important work of families nationwide caring for loved ones with chronic, disabling health conditions. – caregiver.org
Community Council of Greater Dallas – ccgd.org
Eldercare Locator – A public service of the U.S. Administration on Aging connecting you to services for older adults and their families. Telephone: 1-800-677-1116 – eldercare.gov
Center for Medicare Advocacy – medicareadvocacy.org
The Conversation Project is dedicated to helping people talk about their wishes for end-of-life care. – theconversationproject.org
The New Old Age New York Times Blog – newoldage.blogs.nytimes.com
Dallas Seniors’ Guide – Food & Fun/Events & Activities/Local Resources/Senior Communities/Senior-Friendly Business. seniorsguide.net/dallas/
New LifeStyles –Guide to Senior Living and Care. – newlifestyles.com
Butler, Katy. (2013). Knocking on Heaven’s Door: The Path to a Better Way of Death. NY: Scribner. Written by a daughter whose father’s pacemaker essentially outlived him, Butler “chronicles the rise of Slow Medicine – a growing movement that promotes care over cure.”
Harris, Lisa Ohlen. (2013). The Fifth Season. TX: Texas Tech University. Written by a former Dallas-Fort Worth resident, a daughter-in-law tells the story of caring for her mother-in-law as she aged. Ms. Harris helped her mother-in-law file an advance directive only to find that “an advance directive is not as clear and controlled as it seems. End of life issues involve a series of small decisions…”
Jacobs, Barry J. (2006). The Emotional Survival Guide for Caregivers. NY: Guilford. A psychologist offers advice and reassurance for the myriad of emotions a Caregiver experiences. Dr. Jacobs carves out “seven key psychological tasks that can help you succeed as a caregiver without losing ground in other areas of your life.”
Mace, Nancy L. & Rabins, Peter V. (2011). The 36-Hour Day. NY: Grand Central Life & Style. This is a guide for families who are caring for loved ones with Alzheimer’s Disease and other dementias and memory loss.
Sheehy, Gail. (2010). Passages in Caregiving: Turning Chaos Into Confidence. NY: Harper. With cover to cover practical information based on research and experience, Sheehy weaves in the story of her husband’s progressive illness and how they navigated the health care system, finances, and emotions.
About the Author
As a Licensed Professional Counselor and Supervisor, Dr. Jane Toler specializes in counseling individuals, couples, and families. She has navigated the caregiver journey in her own family, with clients, and with members of the group she facilitated, Caring for the Caregiver.
Dr. Toler earned her Ph.D. in Counseling from The University of North Texas and M.S. and B.A. degrees from the University of Tennessee, Knoxville. She has been in the mental health field since 1996. She has volunteered at the Suicide and Crisis Center in Dallas and is an affiliate of the Stepfamily Association of America, now known as the National Stepfamily Resource Center.